I work with people with depression, anxiety, trauma histories, ADHD, and problems with self-esteem and relationships. Together we’ll gain a better understanding of your story and how it’s shaped you, practice emotional regulation, build self-compassion, and figure out how you want your life to be and how to get closer to it.
I accept a limited, select number of couples. Particularly those who are looking to nurture their relationship, who are going through a life transition and need some support, or those who are going through a hard time but who are committed to maintaining their relationship. I do not work with couples where one or more is beginning to plan to leave or doesn’t think there is capacity to reconcile.
However, if you are mutually committed to separating, I am willing to help work with you through the process. The emphasis will be on logistical conversations, clarifying intentions and timelines, and giving you an external place to talk with fewer distractions. I don’t mediate or litigate disputes and I don’t testify at family court. This is best for couples with children or business interests in common who need to interact even after they’ve separated, or when you’re stuck living together longer than you want.
Trauma leaves its mark on you, whatever form it had. We can understand what’s happening to your body and mind, find a sense of safety, learn how it’s affecting your relationships now, with an emphasis on your choice and agency.
If you have a voice in your head that criticizes and insults you, we can work it not by directly challenging it with gratitudes and affirmations. But by learning to take it less seriously and then finding ways to act with compassion even when we believe we don’t deserve it.
When we’ve had a really fortunate life, it can be really confusing when we’re still experience all sorts of mental health problems. We can work together to figure out the shape of your pain, where it might be coming from, what might be keeping it going, and figure out ways to shift it.
ADHD makes life so hard! You know all the stuff you want to do, but you just can’t make yourself do the things you need to do when you want to. And there’s so many demands in life, it can feel like you’re running ever faster and not able to catch a break. I can’t prescribe meds, but we can figure out how to make changes in your life so it gets more sustainable and you have more compassion for yourself, because you’re worth it.
I’m a parent myself and I remember how alone I felt and how strained all my relationships were when I first became a parent. If you’re also struggling to adapt to changes in your family, come in by yourself, with your partner, with your own parent, see if we can see you through this huge transition so that you see it as a new start not just for your child, but for you and your loved ones.
I’m a huge nerd myself and I used to be a software developer before I changed careers. So while I may not know your favorite media inside and out, I probably know of it and I definitely respect how important it is to you. I’ve also got some plans to build some therapeutic roleplaying groups, so if you’re interested, let me know and I might prioritize that a bit higher. I’m particularly interested in exploring therapeutic gaming for couples.
Whether because of your gender or sexual orientation, your race, or something about the way you feel. I respect all my client’s inherent human dignity. I aim to be informed about systemic and cultural forces so you don’t have to teach me about yourself, while also respecting that your experiences are unique and can’t be found in a textbook.
I am kink- and polyamory-friendly. While I am not part of the LGBTQIA+ community, I am open, respectful, and thoughtful about your identity.
There’s lots of reasons folks may not have had good experiences with past therapists. If you’re ready to give it another try, we’ll spend some time the first session figuring out what went wrong with your earlier ones and see if we can find ways to address your past problems proactively so they don’t come up or come up as little as possible.
This feels like a cop-out answer, but I started my career at an agency where I worked with all sorts of people with all sorts of problems and I loved the variety! If you like my vibe but don’t see yourself in the earlier sections, get in touch with me anyways! If you like how I talk here, we’ll probably do good work in therapy.